2020/04/26

Should one blindly trust a friend?

"The Picture of Dorian Gray" by Oscar Wilde

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  1. Hi, concerning trust I think it depends on each persons. I think you need proofs to trust someone. Also, it depend on your type of friends. Personally, if I know a friend since a long time, I think I could blindly trust this person. I also think that a true friend is a little bit like family and I trust blindly my family so why not a close friend ?

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  2. Kamélia Barzali29 April 2020 at 00:25

    Helloo,
    First of all, trust is the basis of any lasting relationship in society. Indeed, trust is established on a blind belief but without being naive: trust is granted as a mark of recognition.
    Trust is the basis of the loyalty and longevity of a friendship.
    Failure to respect this trust consciously leads to conflict and the source of lost friendships. Giving confidence is a very daring bet, because it accepts being disappointed and deceived.
    Then, in the novel studied, "the portrait of Dorian gray", Lord Henry, known as "Harry", is one of the main characters in the story, in the role of "director of conscience" which he exercises on Dorian . Indeed, he is, unlike his young friend, eloquent, confident, in well-asserted positions on the values ​​that govern his life.
    It was his talk about the value of youth and beauty that started to corrupt Dorian, who, unable to form an idea for himself, adopted Harry's values. However, if Lord Wotton is interested in the young man, it is primarily because of a physical attraction pure and simple, because he sees in him an achievement of beauty made man, Dorian physically embodies all that the aristocrat research, and he finds it desperate that this young man is doomed to lose this beauty. Throughout the novel, he will influence Dorian in his speeches, without ever imposing a point of view on him: it is the young man himself, captivated by his words, will drink his words and assimilate them for his own life.
    So we understand throughout the novel that Dorian sees Harry as a friend, giving him great confidence and thinking that he wants only his good. So while Harry is using it, it's an act of betrayal.
    Finally, I think that we should not trust people blindly, whether it is our friends or not.

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    1. Kamélia Barzali6 May 2020 at 13:23

      Sorry, I made some mistakes :
      - of loyalty
      - "The Portrait of Dorian Gray"
      - It was it speech
      - However, even if

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  3. hello everyone,
    I think that if you're friends with a person they have earned your trust. I, personally, don't just become friends with anyone. It takes time for me to discover that person, their likes and dislikes, their views, their dreams and once we are past that point I feel that trust has been earned. I know that no matter what, we have each others backs even if we disagree with the other's decisions. In conclusion, if you consider a person a friend it means you consider them to be trustworthy and can "blindly" trust them.
    Thank you for reading.
    Hannah SWAN [TS5]

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  4. I think that we all have friends, but some of us have a different way to defined what is a friend. To my mind, a friend has to be loyal, and someone who can support me at all times. But, there are friends and best friends, and it's not the same. I think that if someone is my best friend, it is because I know him for a long time, and obviously, I can trust they. She/he knows all about me and my life, and I know all about hers/his. From that moment, I can blindly trust her/him because I know/hope that she/he will always want to best for me; and vice-versa. And he/she can blindly trust me too. Unfortunately, some people who pretend to be your "friend", or even if you think that they are, can do you disservice. For me, these people are not real friends, and they are your "friend" only by interest.

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    1. I made some mistakes:
      - who is a friend
      - I have known him for a long time
      - I can trust them/him/her to do the best

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  5. First, I think it’s always important not to trust someone too quickly, so we don’t have to trust a friend without doubting if we’ve known him recently, because we never really know people.
    I think it’s important to be wary of people to protect ourselves. 
    But it’s also important to trust our friends to have a good relationship with them, so I think it’s normal to believe them, but only if we’ve known them for a very long time, that they’ve proven things to us ... however, it is possible to have bad surprises, so we must always take a step back before believing someone, even if that person is our friend.
    The book Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde, shows us that some people may seem sincere, without being. For example, Dorian Gray saw Harry as a true friend, and as someone he could trust, but he was wrong, Harry did not want only his good. 
    In conclusion, I think we should not trust our friends blindly. We must always think about every situation before believing something.

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    1. Sorry I made some mistakes :
      - Without doubts
      - Without being sincere

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  6. Hello,
    I think that trust is really important in relationships.
    First of all, I think that it depends on the friend you trust and on what he wants you to do. I know that the friends who I would blindly trust are very few. Before really trusting a person you have to know this person for quite a while and to know his/her intentions. The friend you blindly trust must be like a member of your family. On the other hand, you can’t know what people think and if they are well or ill-intentionned. Even if people are your friends you don’t know what they think and what they can do to you. You shouldn’t trust someone you just met.
    For exemple, in the book « The picture of Dorian Gray » by Oscar Wilde, Dorian Gray is a beautiful innocent lad who is under Lord Henry’s bad influence. Since Lord Henry meets Dorian, the young man immediately blindly trusts Lord Henry ; he does everything Harry asks him to do and becomes a really bad person who causes his fiancee’s suicide and lots of other woes whereas he was a really kind and harmless person before he met this « friend ».
    Finally, we have to be aware that people who pretend to be our friends can make us do very bad things and we can only blindly trust few people.

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    1. Sorry, I made a mistake:
      I should have said "someone you just have met".

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  7. Hello,
    Trust is one of the most essential parts of any type of relationship, whether it is girlfriend-boyfriend, brother-sister, husband-wife or any professional relationship. Confidence is built by actions, by time, but for me, you shouldn't trust blindly. One must always have a certain distrust to be sure of not being trapped and of not suffering. Indeed in life you have to trust our family and friends because otherwise we do not move forward and we are always afraid of being betrayed and we may find ourselves alone. But I don't think our confidence should be blind because we can be hurt by everyone at any time for multiple reasons like jealousy, envy. In our lifetime we are betrayed many times, so we must always be wary. The blind trust for me without betrayal only exists in books or movies. So yes trust is essential in all relationships but you must always have a very small part of mistrust.
    Juliette Brinon TS2

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    1. Sorry, I made some mistakes:
      - is built through
      - over the time
      - suffer to trust your family

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  8. Hello,
    First of all, I would like to say that trust is essential in every relationship. As Jade said, "some of us have a different way of defining what a friend is" and "there are friends and best friends, and it's not the same thing ». I am a very sociable person. I have a lot of friends that I trust but not entirely because I trust them but if they betray my trust then it's over and I will no longer trust them. I only have a few close friends / best friends who I fully trust. I trust them because they have earned it but I do not blindly trust them and I think that one should never blindly trust someone because people make mistakes.
    On the other hand, I fully trust my best friend who is a sister to me but I will always think before doing something that she asks me to do that I’m not sure it is the best thing to do .
    As I said before, you can never blindly trust someone because you never really know the person.
    We should be careful with who we trust and how we trust them. As Charlotte has shown us Dorian blindly trusted the wrong person.
    Don't be like Dorian and be careful with who you trust.

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    1. Sorry I made some mistakes:
      a lot of friends whom
      who I trust
      If I am not sure

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  9. Hello,
    I think it depends on the circumstances. It depends on the reliability of our friend in the context and especially on the nature of our friendship with that friend. There are several types of friendship and it is sometimes difficult to define my difference between a true friend or a false friend. As far as I am concerned, I was already disappointed in a friendly way and today I know that I cannot trust anyone. However, I have four or five real friends that I know I can trust because they have never disappointed me.I know that even if one day we lose contact or fight I can always count on them.

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  10. Hi,
    First of all, trust is one of the most important things in any friendship / love relationship.
    Trust is not given, it is earned.
    Personally I trust very few people in my life.
    And if today I have such confidence in them it is because I have won it entirely.
    But as for Dorian Gray, he blindly trusted the wrong person. So we understand throughout the novel that Dorian sees Harry as a friend, giving him great confidence and thinking that he wants only his good. He made the mistake of trusting her quickly and without being sure.
    Do not be like Dorian and be sure before you trust anyone.

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  11. Hi,
    Trust is an important topic in every relationship and especially in friendship. Should we trust a friend we just met ? But what about a friend we have known since many years ?

    First of all, everyone has their own definition and point of view on friendship, but I think not blindly trust a friend you just met is a wise decision because even if you feel a good connection with this friend, you never know if they are good person that will keep your secrets. So, wait until this friend show you that he deserves your trust, seems to me a good behaviour.
    However, in a healthy relationship with an old friend that made his proofs about trust in the past, I think it is a good idea to trust him.
    In addition, try not to be influence by friends. In "The Picture of Dorian Gray" by Oscar Wilde, Dorian who just met Lord Henry, starts a friendship with him and gradually he lets himself be influenced by Lord Henry. Their relationships end up being toxic.

    In conclusion it is always important to be careful, trust is an important thing that have to be earn.

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  12. First of all, I think it’s difficult to trust someone even if this person is your friend or somebody you know very well. When you trust someone, you give him/her your life because you share your life with him/her. Futhermore you have to know some things as if you’re disagree with him/her, if you argue with, secrets can be revealed and it can be very personal. So, trust a friend is sign an oath and according me you have to be very close of this person. However, I can trust a friend, but I really can’t trust blindy a friend...

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  13. LEFEBVRE Oriane2 June 2020 at 14:25

    Hello again !
    Should one blindly trust a friend?


    When we live in society, confidence and trust are something really important if we want to be accepted. For any type of relationships, trust is the most important. Friends are a big part in our life. They can help us to succeed and we feel great when we are with them. They can understand us and we can understand them.

    Ultimately, your friends are trustworthy if you feel that you trust them. If you feel comfortable with sharing personal information, and have no fears that they will use it against you or judge you, then that is what matters.

    When you know the intention of your friends you can trust them but we shouldn’t trust anyone because sometimes when we want something, things aren’t always done the way we want them to.


    So, I believe that when we really know our friends, we can trust them because it is something really important even when it is in the field of work, etc…

    Thanks for reading !

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  14. Firstly, it’s quite difficult to trust someone even if it’s a good friend or someone you know for few years, trust is almost one of the essentials parts of a relationship, because when you trust someone you share your life, for instance your problems, your secrets… So trust a friend asks time and it’s a sign that he’s/she’s your best friend and a sign that you are very close each other, it’s a relation where even if you disagree with the other opinion, you must stay he’s/she’s best friend because a relationship can not broke for a little disagree. Overall I think you can trust a friend but you should look after yourself because you shouldn’t trust blindly a friend.

    Thanks for reading!

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  15. Generally when you are friends with someone, you trust him/her, but you should not blindly trust any of your friends either, only friends with who you have a strong friendship can be really trustworthy.However, a betrayal is never impossible, so we must be careful.

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  16. CORRECTION:
    Generally when you are friends with someone, you trust him/her, but you should not blindly trust any of your friends either, only friends with WHOM you have a strong friendship can be really trustworthy. However, a betrayal is never impossible, so we must be careful.

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